Caregiver Tips

The term "caregivers" refers broadly to family members and others who help provide care of any kind-such as preparing meals, cleaning house, driving a loved one to treatments, or performing other tasks.

It can be distressing to see your loved one in discomfort or pain. If you see your loved one regularly, you can watch for any changes in his or her condition, such as increased pain or losses in functionality. If you accompany your loved one to doctors' appointments, share your observations with the oncology nurse or doctor. Be specific in describing the symptoms you see. Ask what can be done medically, as well as what you might be able to do to help.

Pain can change a person's outlook, as well as the ability to do everyday tasks. You want to preserve your loved one's dignity and quality of life as much as possible. Ask what tasks he or she might need help with-whether it's filing papers, paying bills, washing clothes, preparing a light meal, doing yard work, and so on. If your loved one doesn't offer any suggestions, think of the things that matter the most to him or her or things that are a source of worry. See if you can help assume some of those tasks, at least temporarily. Find a way to help with tasks without being intrusive. Most of all, simply express your availability and willingness to help.